I-Therapy
Build the confidence to live your authentic self
Professional self-esteem counselling in Christchurch that helps you break free from limiting beliefs and develop genuine confidence from within.
Building Your Authentic Self
Another common theme I work with a lot of people is that sense of self and self-esteem. This comes with all of us no matter where we go, and usually stems from our upbringing and what we've experienced throughout our life - both good and bad - which shapes who we are.
This leads to belief systems about ourselves and that inner critic - the narrative of how we talk about ourselves. My work with individuals focuses on exploring what story we're telling ourselves and creating that new authentic voice and sense of self moving forward.
Self-esteem isn't something you're born with - it's something you build. And just like confidence, it gets stronger the more you practice it. Together, we'll work to recognize old beliefs that no longer serve you and create new, empowering beliefs that support your growth toward your true, authentic self.
What is Self-Esteem?
Signs of Low Self-Esteem
Low self-esteem can show up in various ways that hold you back from living fully:
- Constant self-doubt and fear of failure
- Negative self-talk and harsh inner critic
- Difficulty accepting compliments
- Comparing yourself constantly to others
- Avoiding challenges or new opportunities
- Seeking constant approval from others
- Feeling like you're not "good enough"
- Difficulty setting healthy boundaries
- Perfectionism and fear of making mistakes
Why Self-Esteem Matters
Healthy self-esteem allows you to embrace your strengths, acknowledge your worth, and face challenges with confidence. It's at the core of everything we experience in life.
- Trust yourself to handle whatever comes
- Set boundaries without guilt or fear
- Take on new challenges with resilience
- Build healthier relationships
- Pursue goals that align with your values
- Handle setbacks without self-blame
- Express your authentic self confidently
- Make decisions based on your own values
How We Build Your Confidence
Our professional counselling services are designed to help you rebuild and strengthen your self-esteem. Through personalized sessions, we work together to transform limiting beliefs into empowering ones, helping you develop genuine confidence that comes from within.
Identify Limiting Beliefs
We begin by exploring the stories you tell yourself and identifying the negative thought patterns and conditioned beliefs that are undermining your self-worth. This stage helps you recognize where these beliefs came from - often from childhood experiences, cultural conditioning, or past experiences - so you can begin to see them as learned patterns rather than absolute truths about who you are.
Develop Positive Self-Perception
Together, we gently break down those old belief systems and work to understand where they originated. You'll learn to see yourself through a more compassionate and empowering lens, developing the ability to challenge your inner critic and replace harsh self-talk with kind, realistic self-assessment. This stage focuses on building emotional resilience and self-compassion.
Create Your Authentic Voice
The final stage focuses on creating new, empowering beliefs that support your growth toward your true, authentic self. You'll learn to set healthy boundaries, assert your needs without guilt, and build practical confidence that you can apply in real-world situations. This is about moving forward with greater freedom and self-trust, living as your most authentic self.
Ready to Take the First Step?
Not quite ready to book a full session? No worries — you're welcome to book a free 15-minute consultation instead. It's a relaxed opportunity to ask any questions, get a feel for how things work, and see if we're a good fit for your journey.